How to Talk to Your Child about Kobe Bryant
As you have undoubtedly seen in the news, this past Sunday, Kobe Bryant along with his thirteen-year-old daughter, Gianna, and seven other individuals, died suddenly in a helicopter crash. Around the world, people of all ages felt waves of different emotions as the news of the crash circulated quickly through many media sources and was repeated over and over. Alerts popped up on devices, and some children were exposed to the news before they even had a chance to be told by their parents what had happened. Last night, his wife broke the silence on her own grief, noting that there weren’t enough words to describe her grief and pain. Have you asked your children or teens how they feel about Kobe’s death, yet?
If you don't know much about Kobe Bryant, he spent all of his 20 seasons in the NBA as an LA Laker, earned 18 All-Star selections, five championship rings, and two Olympic gold medals. Kobe, who joined the NBA at 17, and was only 41 when he died, left behind three daughters and a wife.
When Your Child Asks You About a Mass Shooting: How to Talk to Children and Teens about Mass Shootings
This past weekend, in less than twenty four hours, there were two mass shootings. The weekend before yet another. Our children and teens are more plugged in than ever, more aware than ever. It is important to have an understanding of how to talk with them in an age-appropriate way. This includes what story to tell, how much detail to give and how to answer their questions.
Not sure how to handle the conversation? There's no one size fits all for any young person or any age, but these tips may help.
Let them lead the conversation. Depending on your child's age, they may have not heard one thing about the shooting (think early elementary or younger) or, on the opposite side of the spectrum, they could have over exposed themself already (think teens with their own technology).
If your child is younger than 7/8, and doesn’t bring up the shooting, you may not want to bring it up to them. You may end up scaring them and then having difficulty talking with them more. You may give them details they wouldn't have been exposed to otherwise. You may leave them with many more questions than answers. If they bring it up, allow them to share their feelings and to lead with any questions that they have.
If your child is 8/9 or older, they have likely been exposed to the story on their own, especially if they attend camp, daycare or school. Ask if they have heard about the shooting and what they have heard. Ask them their feelings. Ask them their thoughts. Let them lead you into the conversation that they are ready to have.